Hey everybody, how have you cat's been ? It is good to be back.
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spanky wrote:Yeah I know Don, I do. And yeah Dave I am back in Philly, I am trying to move to Delaware, and that will be it, I love that state, and I don't ever want to move again. Plus I will not be far from Philly, and Delaware has only 900.000 people not even a million people in the whole state, and a lot of unmolested land. My wife has went her way and I have went mine, so I am taking this time to get things in place. I will be filing for a divorce next month, Don already knows about my separation, but now you all know. So this is where I am at in my life, and believe it or not I am pleased. And I do want to marry again, because I ain't built to be alone. I also do want to start a band, and I have put the word out, so things are coming along albeit, sometimes slow. So this is where I am at in my life right now. I love all you guy's.
I love all you guy's I really do, and I thank you. Don when I married her I knew that I had stepped ahead of God, we were very incompatible, and my heart was telling me no, but I did it anyway, Joyce is a great Christian girl, but we were not for each other. The Bible says unless God builds the house it will fall. And also I hate to say this, but I must say it, I cheated on her. I know there is no excuse for it. But I was not getting what I wanted out of her, even though I was married, I was still lonely. So I started to turn to other women for what I was not finding in Joyce. And what God did was he taught me how to be true to a women, and God taught how to love and respect a women, using this failed marriage, that He did not sanction. God has made me a much better person using this failed marriage. We tried to reconcile but it was not to be, well I don't see it with my human eyes. I did not tell anybody, but we have been separated for 2 years 3 months. I did not want to look like a failure I guess. I kept saying, I want to talk to Don, about this, but I was embarrassed. Well I am not embarrassed anymore, because I use this to help others. And if there is anybody who could change the 2 hearts in this marriage it is God, I just don't see it with my human eyes. Moses allowed divorce, because the men had hardened their hearts towards their wives, I might have fallen into that category. I'll say this, if God wants us back with each other, there will be no escaping it. I just don't see it, but I am not God.D. Slam wrote:Of course I wish nothing but the best for Lewis and his wife... My prayer is that they can reconcile. As marriages are supposed to last till death do us part. Like teeth, a marriage is not meant to fail, especially where believers are concerned. But I know all to well that many of them do... I certainly am not here to judge and again, I wish all the best for you and your spouse, Lewis. I would only urge you that should you ever stand before that alter again, I would only hope that the two of you would have a deeper understanding of this institution and God's intended purpose for the two of you as you join to become man and wife.
I always feel compelled to talk with young people that are getting married. So much passion, planning and even pain goes into the making of this single day event. I often wonder how much thought is honestly given to the expectation and responsibility of two people promising before God to spend the rest of their lives together. In many cases I don't think there's enough serious thought and research that's genuinely required of one's self and his or her chosen mate that's given to this massive undertaking. It is a MAJOR decision that is in no way meant to be taken lightly. And it's designed to be that way for the rest of our natural lives. A successful marriage is a CONSTANT work in progress. If you have ambitions that supersede your marriage and your family, then don't get married and raise a family.
I know for a fact that this is a huge problem with high profile people... Musicians, sport celebrities, actors and so on. Hardly ever home, witnessing these drastic physical changes in their children as they grow because the space between the times that they see their kids is so wide. You don't have time to see to your marriage then don't get married!
Spanky, Understand that what you are reading here is mostly me venting, because I hate with a passion to see and hear about failed marriages. This is not directed at you, per se. Yes I hate the fact that your marriage is ending but I understand that it happens and that sometimes there's nothing you can do about it. Sometimes things happen to the point where there is simply too much damage for either side to fix it. Though my belief is that these things should be guarded against from the very beginning and then throughout.
Here's some quick advice that I believe is Paramount for a successful marriage relationship:
Communicate.... NEVER, EVER stop communicating! Not communicating is the beginning process of growing apart.
Never call your spouse names.... You don't want to hurt the one you love. It's that simple.
Fellas, There are 4 and 4 reasons only to ever put your hands on your wife:
1. To protect her
2. To play with her
3. To love her
4. To comfort her
Any reason after these is physical abuse.
ALWAYS say I love you often, and mean it[/b].... If you mean it then the action of showing it will be automatic.
NEVER say the word divorce to one another, not even jokingly.
Hey, Spank, best to you, man.
Don.
P.S. And in case anyone is wondering, November 7th will be Audrey's and my 30th wedding anniversary.
I really need to figure out something to do.... I want to do something nice. Suggestions are welcome.
woofus wrote:Women are like double pedals. You don't really need them, but they sure sound good.
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