In answer to your first question to me and assuming that you are referring
to my experience with the abusive person on the road:
The answer is both. The players in the band shared their frustrations AND
would simply retreat into their spaces, sigh and suck it up and keep going.
Funny thing... I would approach her during an intermission and inquire of
the problem she was having with me and she would be accommodating,
even amicable in giving me that information. It's as if she didn't want
to face me one on one off stage when dealing with the issues she was
having on stage. Things got better as time went on but she was such
that you never really knew when she was going to go off. The ground
became to unstable for me so I left.
also being in the situation of being out on the road WITH HER, in HER
Vehicle gave us players a lot less leverage. I could only imagine it was
very similar with Buddy. That was HIS bus and if you rubbed him the
wrong way you'd get kicked off possibly out in the middle of who knows
where. According to one of the volatile, recorded Buddy rants, that's
Precisely what happened.
Thing is I think these recordings were made at a time before he started
using the college kids in his band. These were seasoned players well
out of college.. Whatever the case I can only imagine how tough this
had to be.
As to Buddy's later playing years, word is that he mellowed noticeably.
I remember speaking with the late, Dave Carpenter when he played one
of Billy's tours in the early 90's. He also toured with Buddy and he told
me how mellow and easy going he was on the dates shortly before his
Check your PM.